Follow these little sprinkles of wisdom to find a little happy in your life (:
As humans we are social creatures, it is important to have friendships and bonds with other people. Just as important as it is to make new friendships, it is also important that you don’t hold on to friendships that are unhealthy. Unhealthy friendships are those that are one sided, consist of someone using you for their own benefit, or those that just don’t make you feel good. There’s no reason to waste your time with these types of people! Make new friends! Surround yourself with people who have common interests, common goals, and encourage you to be your best self. Communicate effectively with friends and family and you will see the results! If you need something, ask! Passive aggressiveness and sarcasm do not help to form healthy bonds. If you care about someone, let them know. You never know when it may be too late!
2. Have Hobbies!
It is so important to have hobbies and interests. Don’t waste your time watching television and eating all day. Find a way to do what you love, even if you can’t do it all the time. Find time every week to create something, visit a place you love, or be with people you enjoy. For me, I love my job, baking and being surrounded by people I care about everyday. But I also try to find time every day to play with my son, joke with my fiancé, and work on my crafts! I also enjoy looking for new houses, playing around on pinterest, writing on my blog, and coming up with new games and activities for my little one. All these things keep me sane and happy! Sometimes it is difficult, if not impossible to find the time to work on my hobbies, but tomorrow is always another day!
3. Own Your Faults!
This is one of the things I constantly am telling my employees, Don’t Blame Others! It is easy to use other people as a scape goat, and to blame all of your problems on someone else, but at the end of the day, it really just boils down to you. You are an adult and you make your own decisions, so as a result, you need to face the consequences of those decisions. If you forgot to do something, own it! If you put something together wrong because you didn’t read the instructions, own it! Once you start owning up to the things you have done wrong, you will use more forethought when making decisions and the people around you will have much more confidence in you! Just tonight as I was putting away laundry, my little one took a tumble off off the bed. This was a first for us and even though I was right next to him, that is on me. Yes there were tears, both me and him, but that was no one’s fault but mine. It is no use blaming him for “being too fast” or “being too rambunctious”, I should have been keeping a closer eye on him. And now I will! I’m sure everyone has had those days where they feel they should have a giant sign around their neck that reads “Bad Mom Award”. But stuff happens and we learn from it and we grow and the best we can do is promise to do better next time.
4. Have Goals!
Just as important as it is to have goals, it is so important that you stick to those goals, track your progress, and celebrate even the smallest of victories! At the beginning of the year I wrote down all of my goals for 2017- lose weight, be a great mom, buy a house, plan a wedding (for next year), start to eat healthier, try out yoga, spend more time with the people I love, build sales at work, save up for big purchases, and so many more. I have all of my goals written in the back of my weekly planner so it’s easy to remind myself of them and cross things off when they are accomplished! It also a great reminder, so that once a month I can check and say “Oh I haven’t worked on that at all, what can I do to get started on that next month?”. Having goals is part of what keeps me going, and keeps me motivated and on track! Without everything written down, I think my brain might explode from everything I’m trying to do this year!
5. Don’t get Down On Yourself!
It is so easy to get down on yourself if you make a mistake at work, or have a “bad mom day” (I like to call them), or cheat on your diet, or lose track of a goal, but it is so crucial that you do not give up on yourself! If you have a bad day, just remember that tomorrow is a new one, and you wake up with a blank slate. Working in customer service, some days are great and some make you want to curl up in a little ball and just cry. Sometimes you get that one customer yelling at you over the phone because they got bacon instead of sausage, or how dare you run out of sprinkle donuts, didn’t you know it was their grandma’s birthday and that’s the only donut she will eat????!!! And these are the days that you just feel the worst, you feel like a failure, and you should just get into a different line of work, one where no one needs to talk to you, about anything, ever. But these are the times that you can’t give up! For every customer that takes out their terrible day on you, there are so many more that are grateful for your efficiency, and feel special when you remember their order, and just love (or at least don’t mind) seeing your smiling face every day!
So Be Happy!
You are responsible for your own happiness, not anyone else. If there’s something about your life that you hate and is bringing you down, figure out what you need to do to change it, and work on it everyday! Rip off that bandaid if necessary, there’s no time like the present! You can create a great life, you can make the people around you happy, and you can get where you want to go, you just need to pick yourself up and own it! Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do something, or that you can’t change. There is only one you and you only have this life, so don’t take your days for granted, and live it to the fullest!